WWW — What I want? Why do I want? Will I want it in the future?
When thinking about the future, one might ask himself how he has lived his past.
People are not similar to each other, each person has a different life, different goals, desires, opportunities, career, goals, you name it.
But one similarity which comes to mind is the endless search of people for their happiness; while some find themselves trying to survive, others, try to constantly improve their life, and it seems like that search might never end.
People start asking themselves, what is wrong with my life? what can I improve, they will usually find at least one problem, inherited and shaped by society.
Sometimes it’s money, but even people with money don’t seem to be happy, it’s something rooted in our nature, the constant need for something. something new, something better, something exciting.
I myself find it hard not to at least try and think about a few of the questions that come to mind.
What do I want?
sometimes, the first thing to ask is why? what will be the joy in the thing we want? will it improve our life? is it something we want because society wants it from us? Will another room or bigger house really be a better place for me to live? or should I prioritize it being closer to a central place, knowing I would enjoy it the most?
Answering this question might look simple but it’s not. It is not enough to state what we want to be we start to realize here that what we want is not our big house, but we want our friends to appreciate us, and maybe envy the size of our house, the big swimming pool or the number of rooms that we have.
Why do I want ?
After we understand, what exactly we want and not just keeping it obvious we can prioritize our needs, and our wants we can start interacting with our feelings and think why do we need our friends to appreciate us? why do we need to take a bigger mortgage for a house we will need to clean, drive to and from, might be less convenient, and all because of our need for appreciation, we can put that aside and start thinking about why we want what we really want. What will I get from society’s validation? How important it’s to us? What and where to put the limits for that. If we realize we want it to become more popular, we might find the problem being our close circles, or how we interact with them. we can try to be nicer to people, be more friendly, or find friends that are a better suit for us. These, of course, are just examples but in order to really achieve some inner peace, one might at least try to understand why I want What I want.
Will I want it in the future?
If we want something, it can be very hard and maybe even painful to get it, whether it’s someone, money, a certain career, a certain goal, but looking back you will understand that while choosing to be a doctor, might seem like a good idea when you are 8, but it might not be a good career for you just because you wanted it. Pursuing a dream may be good, and very helpful for us, we can learn, get a lot from it, but sometimes, we will understand that the dream was something else and that even after we got to it, the idea it represented for us, wasn’t there. The money we got didn’t buy us happiness, and the bigger car didn’t get us faster home after work to spend some time with our children. Knowing the future isn’t something that is far from us, and that we are taking a big part of our life, time that we(at least now) can’t buy back. We won’t be younger again, and driving in a new car in our 50’s, might not be as joyful as hiking in our 20’s.
While the examples given above are vague, incomplete, and sometimes feel stupid, is because I want you to take them personally and have the ability to relate, without defining a structure of how to think, what and when you should do, it’s all up to you. All I want to give here are ideas, and while ideas aren’t worth much, thinking is essentially life itself.
- Discalimer: Everything in the article is my opinion, I am very often wrong.
